Tomi's New Year's Resolutions

I don't think any of my resolutions are that crazy this year, but I thought I would share them with you nonetheless. I figured mayby by hearing mine you might be able to trump them, because like I said, they aren't too crazy.

Last year my resolution was simple: To get paid for having fun. I think I accomplished that. I love my job and I love to write. I will continue to add this goal to my list, but here are the few I came up with:

1. I think I would like to actively pursue date night again with my husbands. Did you catch that typo! I meant with my husband (singular)! Eek-gads, one is hard enough! We have a three year-old and my husband has a crazy work schedule. Going out without the little guy is tough, but I also have a teenager at home who is always willing to babysit—the perks of having kids ages apart.

2. I would like to tythe more. Is that how you spell it? See I don't even know, so obviously this is a good one for me. Up until now, charity has always begun at home. I need to change this and be more generous. One of my characters in my book, The Bird's Willow (which I am currently seeking representation for) says this about his relationship to money: I can't wait to make more money just so I can give it away. That's a motto I want to live by.

3. I want to spend more quality time with my family. I'm in the process of defining what this means. We spend a lot of time together at home playing with the little one, but I think we need more of a balance of getting out together more too. I need to feel less guilty about growing as a writer when it takes me away from them. Haven't found the balance yet.

4. I want to reach more people who are experiencing divorce and the aftermath.

5. I want to help my husband more so he can work less and have less stress in his life.

6. I want to see my parents more. I am 2% of the adult population who's parents are still married and still living. I should be so lucky to have that!

7. I want to do more to give my children rich environments for their creative and academic talents and nurture them.

8. I want to grow and nuture my relationships with friends and colleagues. Would love to have more parties in 2014. Maybe I'll come up with some theme parties just to get us all together.

9. I want to read more books and watch more movies in 2014.

10. I want to write another book and screenplay in 2014.

Send me your new years resolutions. Truthfully, I didn't have any until I sat down and wrote this. I came up with all of these in about 15 minutes and I could still come up with more. Try it. It will be good for you and you'll be glad you did it.

Most of all have a happy New Year!